day 725 | July 17, 2015 | Reconnecting in Kuala Lumpur

KL City View from our hotel room

It has started -- Roo and Red are now actively curating what I post online. Got the sense for this particular trip, Roo specifically wanted to remember. Was nagged more than a dozen times with reminders to blog, along with follow-ups after the trip on whether the images were ready for posting. I pre-selected the images, then they reviewed it for approval (Something's wrong with this process!). Soon, the words flowing on these pages will be theirs too.

They shared snippets of what they enjoyed about the trip, and I was their insight-hungry journal keeper. Things that topped the list were (1) hydrotherapy swimming pool at Maya Hotel, which was perfect for Roo's height and featured jacuzzi jets in every corner, (2) Japanese meals at an old favorite Ozeki, ranked 5 stars for the lovely service and fat fishes, and Yuzu, unremarkable at 3 stars, (3) Choosing books at Kinokuniya, and (4) Chilling out during the bus ride, with movie, music and games on the console, green view from the window, and ready snacks on their laps. I'd like to think another thing on their list is being together as a family -- their mother, their father, each other.

Remember the good days, learn from the bad, and choose to remain open and vulnerable despite it all. This was important to me, and while the little ones probably don't understand yet the significance of this trip during the time we planned it, perhaps when they grow older, they will understand our intention. They are loved so so much, and I want them to grow up in a doubtless awareness of that.

Snuggle hugs. Intricately intertwined.

day 723 | June 4, 2015 | Bintan

Cannonballs! :)

Exclusive mommy-time with my little ones in a nearby island escape. Roo's calendar has been busier than mine (a mean feat!), and these were the only three days I could steal her away without missing any of her commitments. I've been tied up with so many things, and the girls have been so good, that I haven't really given them due attention. This trip was partly payback, but primarily a recalibration -- to remind them that I'm always just here for them, as well as to remind myself to be mindfully present.

The young travellers impressed. They created our joint packing list, and were partners throughout the trip.

We loved exclusivity at Bintan SpaVilla. Because we were there on weekdays, we were one of four groups in a resort that had about 20+ villas. Mostly cannonballs in the pool, giggles in the jacuzzi, lounging at the bar/resto, picnics in the balcony, watching the tides come and go, and sipping on giant coconuts. I felt for that couple who couldn't properly make out al fresco because my kids were all over the pool and the jacuzzi. The little ones did give me permission to scoot off for an hour at the spa (bliss!), and I managed to convince them to go to the Mangrove Forest and Fishing Village for a sunset tour.

Always been fascinated with mangroves -- biologically complex ecosystem, a crossroad where ocean, freshwater, and land meet. It is earth's nursery ground for fishes, and houses an assortment of things that include crabs that can climb trees, and sea apples that are not quite edible to humans.

Our tour guide was Aidil, a storyteller at heart. He spoke of the hard life of fisherfolk, of $3 a day living, unless you can get an education. A way of life, where the men fish, and the women do everything else -- including gather drinking water by paddling their boats, jars and buckets in hand, to a freshwater well. He shared his fondness for 'kelongs,' and I loved the tidbit about how the best catch is always on moonless nights. Local freedivers can hold their breath for more than 3 minutes and come up with fish in hand. They are virtually humanoid fish themselves.

Beyond the privileged lifestyle of resort holidays, I hope some of the stories from that afternoon resonated with my little companions. The stories are not new, and are quite similar to those of my birthplace. They serve as a reminder of how fortunate we are, as well as a call to action. While I'm happy with the time to connect, I kept on thinking I should sign us up for a child-friendly volunteer trip soon.

Gosh. Life's tough for a 4 year old...

day 724 | May 24, 2015 | Langkawi

A pure escape trip with two beautiful souls, equal parts strong and confident, soft and vulnerable. My first girly trip in a long long while -- and it was really brought on by fabulous chemistry with my companions. Feel blessed having met them when I did, and continually fortunate to get to know them on a daily basis.

The Danna was gorgeous. A view of the docked boats (which don't seem to be moving) at the Marina, lush greens in the backdrop, regular call to prayer from the nearby mosque, cows moo-ing whenever they felt like it. We drafted plans a few days before the trip, alpha-females unite. Yoga mornings, rainforest after dark, cable car, jungle trek, mangrove cruise, and of course, massages. 

Arrived at the Danna, welcomed with a shoulder massage, and at that first contact, the activity plan went downhill. Still did a lot of things, just not what we originally thought we would do -- a three-day intensive conversation which were punctuated by nibbles and cocktails, ice cream service by the beach, enviously watching couples make out by the water, long walks looking for a reggae bar we never got to, massages, taking our sweet time enjoying really good Lebanese food while enjoying the equally good view, bedtime music swapping, beers by/in the pool, and learning to float and let go. 

Good energy, recharge and leaning back on good advice, every time I think of Langkawi. And in this case, the company defined the destination. Thank you, ladies!

"this is the first thing that comes to mind when you asked for something good. my most simplest of days. here are some other things: that feeling you get when you're with your favorite people -- it feels a lot like belonging, like you're understood, like for a moment nothing is or could go wrong. how, for some reason, you can never hide happiness. this song. crossed fingers of hope. when you get to see and touch the person you've been missing; how your heart bursts with colour.

my love, no matter how long it takes, you're always going to make your way back to the found. sometimes it might just take the compass you have in your heart a bit longer to find its way again. remember the love; remember the light; remember the warmth. take care of yourself."

- Anthea Yang, Constellations from Home

day 730 | March 20, 2015 | Siloso Beach Resort

Donut happy! Floaters and slides

Singapore adventure with the kids. My younger brother visited us for his school holidays, and thought it a good opportunity to do a hydro-centric staycation at Siloso Beach Resort. The girls and I have been there a couple of times to visit friends, and the kids took an instant liking to the pool and the proximity to the beach. The landscape pool is said to contain natural spring water harvested from the hill's underground reserves. Another draw was the hotel's claim to be committed to environment preservation, with resident flora and fauna minimally displaced by hotel operations.

Between the pool, jacuzzi, and beach, didn't manage to drag the kids to the Eco Tour. There's supposed to be a walking tour with Eco learning huts, as well as rooftop and vegetable gardens. We'll get to those in the next visit. The kids were sufficiently blissed out by water play and an assortment of lovely playmates who came to visit with us.

Happy snaps!

My trio of trouble

day 722 | March 19, 2015 | Imaginarium

Imaginarium has become one of our favorite spots whenever we're in the general area of the Singapore Art Museum. Worth a stop for this year's Children's Season, if you haven't gone to explore yet. There are also tandem swing sets, stuff from my youth, parked in front of the 8Q entrance. Snaps from when my younger brother was in town. Combined with my Roo and Red, they were a trio of trouble. :)

The doodles throughout the 8Q staircase set the playful tone to the exhibits. A mix of happy and bizarre, like stepping into a 6 year old's dream.

My personal favorite is an interactive called Green Room, Interstellar Overdrive by Vincent Twardzik Ching -- It allowed us to pedal on stationary bikes. From our efforts, came stars, music, or words on a lightbox. Intent is to inspire thought on how alternative energy sources might change our lives. Had to explain a little bit of how human kinetic energy translates into electric energy. I must have simply been white noise to the kids, as they were focused on expending said energy perched on the bikes.

The trio enjoyed Kumkum Fernando's magical storytelling, particularly the puzzle pieces to complete the Saari fish of Manik, as well as spent a chunk of time weaving bracelets and creating pompoms at Izziyana Suhaimi's Let's Make Studio.

A particularly thought-provoking piece is Trees by Takashi Kuribayashi. Parts of a tree were neatly arranged into glass boxes. Roo and Red were both concerned about the brutality of the piece -- "What did the tree ever do wrong for it to be chopped down?" I tried to reassure them that perhaps the artist took an already felled tree. The intent for the piece is transformation. "His work reminds us how nature often exists in very controlled environments in cities such as Singapore. Over time, the sections of the tree trunk will decay, and in the process give life to new organisms and ecosystems, so that each glass box will hold a tiny new world of its own." The question then is, whether or not we like what we transform into?

Will continue to go back to SAM to revisit Imaginarium, which will run until 19th July. Need to do more googling, and be open to meaningful conversations with the little ones. In these kinds of exhibits, we're all growing and learning after all.

day 728 | February 8, 2015 | Art Fair Philippines

Details on one of John Paul Antido's work

Fortunate to have been in Manila on the weekend of Contemporary Art Fair this year. It was founded in 2013 as a platform for exhibiting and selling the best in modern and contemporary Philippine visual art. The fair managed to round up an impressive number of galleries. Heard good things about it from a friend, so decided to give it a go.

Hosted in a dressed up parking lot, the fair had a mix of understated, bold, whimsy, and satire. Took snaps of what disturbed, intrigued, fascinated, and those that remind me of things I want to remember. Personally curated, and sharing with credits to the artists. Revisiting my selection confirms that I am drawn to dark things, despite the sunburst tone I prefer in my own art. Censored a few pieces here which were a bit too dark -- I would hesitate to show those to my little ones.

Highly recommend flying over to Manila and checking out the vibrant art scene yourself! Will go and hunt down more of Marc Aran Reyes' work, which I've strangely not taken a photo of. Next year, Art Fest is going to be from February 18 - February 21, and fingers crossed, I might be in town again.

This piece haunted my dreams for a few nights. Artist to be identified.

Virgilio Aviado

day 731 | February 5, 2015 | Gigs in Manila

Memories tied to music -- how the first human boy I had a crush on introduced me to Sarah McLachlan. NU107 radio station playing the soundtrack of my youth. That specific day, humming to 'The Freshman' by The Verve Pipe as I was getting ready to go out with friends. Classmates strumming 'Closing Time' by the staircase as we waited to be picked up in school. That crystal clarity of Brandon Boyd taking his shirt off as he sang 'Pardon Me.' Sneaking off at midnight to travel all the way to Intramuros to sit entranced while Cynthia Alexander strummed and hummed her way into my soul. Throwing ourselves in the air as Sandwich jammed to 'Butterfly Carnival,' when Mayrics was still around. 'Bittersweet Symphony.' Discovering Dave Matthews Band, and Jeff Buckley... just wow. Receiving mixtapes and then making them for friends. And yes, even coming home past sunrise because of Hip Hop nights. 

So happy to have been able to connect to music again, coming back to Manila. This time around, in the company of my mom, a very dear friend, her beloved, and old friends from primary school days. Caught my latest crush, Franco, live in 12 Monkeys, a relatively new music bar. Then later on, Armi of Up Dharma Down in 19 East, an old haunt. Inspiration, Heartbreak. Distraction, Love.

day 721 | January 31, 2015 | Litmus Test

LEARNING PRIORITIES FOR ROO & RED: 

Get unstuck, Ask the right questions. 

Break down intimidating problems into bite-sized puzzles.

One thing at a time.

Learning as play. 

Encourage her to drive herself.

This happened quite a while back -- and I continue to struggle with keeping to the spirit of my parenting aspirations. Every time I struggle with patience and empathy, I think back to this, and feel the anger sucked away. Hope this helps other parents who have made the commitment not to yell at and hit their children as well...